I hope after this time has passed, after the restrictions are lifted and we can venture out into the world again, I hope that we have learnt the art of appreciation.
I hope that we feel lucky when we sit down in a cafe across the table from our friends and enjoy a chat, a coffee and a cake. I hope we delight in our pubs, our theatres, our shops. I hope we realise that people fought to be able to re-open those businesses.
I hope we never again take for granted a hug from a loved one, or a random chat with a stranger. I hope we remember the lessons that we learned while the world stopped.
I don’t know whether we will or not, but I do hope. For this period of time has bought suffering to many. Suffering from loss, from grief, from mental health, anxiety, stress, depression. And it would seem so sad, if all the suffering did not accomplish anything. If there were no lessons that we learnt. If all that grief was simply in vain.
I hope we have learnt the art of gratitude, the value of appreciation. I hope we will enjoy our lives again and feel blessed to be allowed such liberties as walking into crowded cafes. I hope we remember the lessons we learned on those long lonely days.
It’s easy at the time to swear that we will remember to be grateful, but it is so easy to slip back into our old disgruntled ways. So remember to be grateful. Be grateful for the time you are having, some people would give anything to be to have that time. And when we are allowed out and about again, remember to be grateful for the luxuries of our world, the laughter of friends, the hugs from our loves. Remember appreciation.
Our days are no longer filled with big gestures, with amazing adventures, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t filled with magic moments, we just need to look a little harder…
It is so easy to think of all the things we have lost. The people, the fun, the community, all the things that we looked forward to, the treats that we gave ourselves through the year, the markers that we lived towards. It is easy to think we have lost everything, the our worlds have been stripped away, made grey and empty. But even in this time, there is magic in the smallest of moments. That whinny as you walk across the yard, that moment when dawn breaks across the sky and light shatters the darkness, that card from a friend that falls through your letterbox. It is the small moments that we are cherishing now, the ones that would have passed us by in a frenetic old world.
Savouring the little things is what keeps us going. Small gestures, a quick text, a card, a shouted conversation with your neighbour, a phone call with a friend, a cup of tea on a cold wet day, eating chocolate whilst wearing fluffy socks, whatever the small thing is that touches you, make sure it keeps happening.
This time will pass. We will once again be able to enjoy the bigger things, but for now enjoy the dandelion growing through the concrete, enjoy watching a swan swim on a flooded field, enjoy watching a flock of geese fly in their haunting v-shape across a winter sky, look round and seek out the smallest things to take pleasure in. And failing that put on your fluffy socks, make yourself a hot drink, get some chocolate and curl yourself and tell yourself you are doing an amazing job in difficult times…
It’s okay to find things difficult. The world is tricky at the moment and it is okay to feel that. There was a meme going around about enjoying time with your children and spend time baking or gardening, you might have seen it. This is all well and good, but all it actually does is make parents feel guilty. All we should do is be kind to each to other. Maybe some people find the structure generated by school suits their children better, lots of people are still being expected to work from home while home schooling, which is entirely unrealistic. You may as well try and email your boss while doing a canter halfpass! Most people aren’t worried about their children not learning, they are worried about them not learning social skills, not seeing their friends.
Now more than ever we need to be kind, but not only to others but ourselves. If you wouldn’t say it to another person why would you say it to yourself. The world is challenging and it is okay to find it so. Telling people to be positive can be undermining, can make them feel their response is not valid. It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to realign your expectations. Remember what you see online is a snippet of other people’s lives. For every positive post people put on you have no idea how much of the day they have spent sat on the floor crying and eating chocolate biscuits.
Don’t judge your life against other people’s social media posts. The world is difficult it would wrong to expect yourself to be unaffected by the circumstances. Be kind, realign your expectations, be kind, eat biscuits, be kind, hug your ponies, be kind, ring your friend, be kind. This too shall pass
It’s October next week. October, in my mind, the first of the closing months of the year, which means that the oddest year ever is drawing to a close. Next year may well be challenging, but hopefully it won’t be as shocking, as unexpected.
October is evenings drawing in, it’s open fires and hot chocolate, it’s muddy fields and the smell of damp dogs and horses. It’s cold fingers and finding last years gloves. It’s the leaves beginning to fall and that first chill in the air.
As the nights begin to draw in, we start to wonder what we will do on the those evenings, what we will do with our horses, now that we can no longer stay outside all evening, basking in the glorious rays. We need other things to do on those damp and dark evenings. Activate Your Horse’s Core gives a great set of exercises to help improve your horse’s core, think yoga, pilates, think good stretching and how much fitter you feel if you do this for yourself.
Your horse will benefit just as you do from activating his core. You know those ladies you see gliding around with perfect posture, while you are slumped over to one side? Your horse will be like that too! Improving your core helps your flexibility and can reduce your likelihood of injury, what’s not to love?
Activate Your Horse’s Core is comprised of a book and DVD, so that you can study the exercises at home before using them on your horse. The pages of the book are plastic coated, so it will survive being dropped on the stable floor and slobbered on! (We would advise against dropping it in your horse’s water though!)
Activate Your Horse’s Core is a perfect October present for yourself, in case you need a little cheering up at the prospect of dark evenings and short days.