I’m sure you all know the image of the success iceberg. Where what you see above the waterline is success, and what you don’t see is everything that went in to get to that point. When you stand there watching that perfect round, and think why can’t I do that, you have no idea how many setbacks they have overcome to get there.
We need setbacks, they provide us with moments where we are forced to reconsider our path, our strategy. Sometimes they are even markers to show us we are on the wrong path. People who breeze through life without having having setbacks, never really learn how to do anything, they have never learnt the art of perseverance. We need setbacks to build ourselves into stronger versions of ourselves.
The problem with setbacks is that they do just that, they set us back, they make us doubt ourselves, lose confidence in ourselves, question our choices. The purpose of having a team of trusted professionals, such as Sue Palmer talks about in her book, “Understanding Horse Performance Brain, Pain, or Training?” is that you have a confident sounding board to discuss your setbacks with. Good people will tell you when you are heading down the wrong path, good people don’t always agree with you, though they do need to be on the same wavelength as you, otherwise the relationship won’t work.
Setbacks aren’t final, they don’t mean that you have failed, they are just steps upon the path. If you are struggling, take a look at Sue Palmer’s book, hearing other people tell their stories is supportive. The book will help you to work through the problems you are facing, dealing with each one in a supportive and constructive manner. So that the next time you experience a setback, don’t see it as a failure, but rather as an opportunity to stop and look around and check that you are on the right path, heading in the right direction.